Boating With Friends …

When I first met my husband, he was already a seasoned boater and loved being out on the water. Living in Washington State … being on the water is part of life around here. I grew up spending time on our families boats but spent little of my adult life. I knew a few of the basic courtesies when boating … but I learned SO MUCH during those first years dating my now husband.

We often invite friends to join us out on the water, and I am always amazed at how in tune they are with boating etiquette and how considerate they are of our space. I often think, “I wish I knew then … what I know now …” regarding how to be a guest on someone else’s boat. I figured I could share what little I know, and hopefully help a few others on their quest to be a perfect boating guest.

Lis and Me
We love having this family out with us … they are the perfect addition to our ‘crew’!

You know what they say, “The only thing better than owning a boat … is having a friend who owns a boat.” This is so true, and a sure fire way to ensure you receive another invite to join them out on the water is to start off on the right foot getting into the boat!!

  1. No shoes on a boat … ever. This definitely depends on the type of boat you are riding on, but I don’t know a boat captain anywhere that would oppose to any passenger taking off their shoes. Especially when you first step on the boat. We own a bowrider and to embark (throwing a little nautical terminology your way), you have to step on our sun pad. Nothing will make a boat owner cringe more than a shoe on their upholstery. Make sure you NEVER wear a high heel and try to wear shoes you can easily remove or kick off before stepping foot on a boat from a dock/pier.
  2. Ask about cooler/storage situations. We love it when our friends who are joining us on the boat for the day, bring snacks and drinks. However, be aware that boating space is limited. We try to accommodate friends by always having room in our onboard coolers for their drinks/food. I always try to communicate space availability before we go too. Friends are always SUPER generous, and while we would LOVE to have that 18 pack of bottles on the boat … our cooler may not have room and that case is taking up valuable leg room. Another option is to bring a small cooler with you. We have some friends who brought a great cooler recently, and it was perfect for our time out on the water. Small and compact, you didn’t even notice it. A good rule of thumb is to always ask if you can/should bring a cooler – or if there will be room for your items in the one already on the boat.
  3. No glass on a boat. Bare feet and glass do not mix. Boating can be rocky and while glass is always fun to hold … it can be dangerous. Keep this in mind when you bring things on the boat. Look for drinks in cans/plastic bottles and try to bring containers which are disposable or can collapse if possible.
  4. Be aware of dirt and crumbs. We recently purchased a 12v vacuum for our boat … because my level of OCD became too much for my husband to handle. People getting in and out of your boat on a beach or shore can mean dirt and sand being dragged into the boat. Be mindful and take that extra moment to dip your feet in the water, before you swing them into the boat. Your boat captain will notice and be thankful for your attempt at making it a little cleaner.
  5. Ask to help. My husband has a specific way he likes to tie our boat up and place our buoys. I have been around long enough, I know his methods now. But, any chance someone else on our boat is willing to help, I gladly pass the reigns over to them. When you see things need to be done, speak up and let others know you are willing to help tie … steer … even hold a baby … it makes the entire day so much more fun, for you and the boater.
    Resetting the anchor
    Where we live, we boat in salt water and have to adapt to changing tides … which means that stud muffin of a guy has to re-set our anchor often. This picture was taken when we had three boats tied together and that hunk-of-burning-love burled his way through the crowd and set the anchor like a seasoned professional.


Hopefully, these few tips might help the next time you are invited on a boat. We have been SO LUCKY to have amazing friends who are already aware of these little nuances, and I am lucky my husband had the patience to help me with them too!

If I see you on the water … I’m the one with the blonde ponytail, waving to everyone!

Happy Boating!


Keep Your Eyes Open on a Treadmill…

I was at the gym last night … yes, you read that correctly, we joined a gym.

I like to start and end my workout with a walk on the treadmill. My cool down walk is usually a time where I listen to a podcast or book on tape … helps my mind wind down too.

Well, last night, I am on the treadmill and I keep getting distracted by other people and I am losing track of my place in the book. So, while I am walking I decide to close my eyes. While my eyes are closed … nothing feels different while walking on the treadmill, and suddenly I get the feeling like I am on one of those moving ramps at the airport. When I open my eyes … I have somehow ended up on the very back of the treadmill, and I end up doing something out of an America’s Funniest Home videos, where I am trying to catch my footing and then start to fall forward and BAM! I flew off the back of the treadmill … at the YMCA … and have a 100 people’s eyes on me when I do it.

It. Was. Mortifying. Lesson learned … keep your eyes open on the treadmill. Hopefully, my blunder can be a learning experience for you!

I am needing some new gym inspiration as well … my current clothes totally work for what I am doing, but all the fitness gurus say to have cute gym clothes to encourage you to go to the gym. As a way to entice myself to workout, I have said that for every month I meet my fitness goals (working out 5 days a week), I’ll allow myself to purchase one of the following items (Abs willing .. after two babies, I’m not sure my naval will ever see daylight again).

What are your fitness goals? Any recommendations for amazing gym clothes I must have?

This Crop Top will be the last item I purchase … because it will take years to get abs like this … but it is a goal I have!
LOVE this oversized sweatshirt!! So retro but chic!
Adidas nailed it with these leggings! Can also be used for Cougar Football season as well!! (because I have no shame and will totally wear leggings in public)
These peek-a-boo leggings may be a pipe dream, but I would love to rock these and look good doing it!
LOVE this ballet pink sports bra, and after two babies … these ladies need some SUPPORT!
This Nike Sports Bra is on sale … so I am hoping the sale price sticks and it will be my first TREAT TO ME purchase!
Zella Leggings are my favorite … squats, bend and snaps … they can handle it all!

What Worked … What didn’t

I have posted recently about ALL of these things which have been arriving in the mail … but I have failed to talk about how they turned out!! I figured I would give you all a run down, of what has been working lately, and what has flopped!


This eyeliner is INCREDIBLE!! I am ALWAYS struggling with eyeliners. I love the look of a gel, with the staying power of a liquid and the ease of a pencil. This eyeliner gave be ALL of those. Yes, it is a little pricy. BUT. IT. IS. WORTH. IT. You get three in the package. I find the black to be BLACK BLACK and it stays on ALL DAY (with a primer)!!!


This romper was a keeper. It was long enough to cover my booty, and the waist elastic fell in the right place. One thing I HATE about rompers, is when the elastic hits too high, and the shorts look like a big wedgie. This one is comfy, and I know it will definitely get some miles on it this summer!

This cardigan … I have it in yellow with pink sunbursts. It is so pretty!! I am so sad it is starting to warm up a little … my days of wearing it are running out!!


I ordered this sweatshirt in a small and a medium. Full disclosure … they both fit exactly the same. Granted, I ordered the medium in the grey and the small in the stripes … but the oversize boxy look happened with both. I think this will be perfect for summer nights. AHOY!

This sweater is SO SOFT. You know Wildfox will always deliver in the comfort factor, but this shirt has really been worth every dollar. It is a sweatshirt, but the way it lays is very similar to a sweater. I wore it with work pants, and it was a great look!! Perfect for dressing up or down!


Sadly, a few items failed for me. They looked great on the models … I did my due diligence in looking at the comments and pictures. Here is what is going back, and why …

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I really wanted to love these Sunglasses from Kate Spade. I got them on sale … and man was I excited for them to arrive. I tried them on … and the nose pieces made them sit too high on my face. The cat eye just didn’t sit right on my face shape. It looked odd. If you find you have a problem with Cat Eye Glasses, they sit too low on your face, TRY THESE!

Main Image - Madewell Off the Shoulder Blouse

I was so excited to try this shirt on … I had the whole outfit in mind. All white everything … pretty accessories … statement bag … and then it arrived, and my worst fear was confirmed. TOTALLY SEE THROUGH AND MADE ME LOOK PREGNANT.

I picked this top up in two colors, the one pictured and in an off white/cream color. I was really excited to try these out … but they were cheap. Like that stiff, cheap, fabric table cloths are made out of. They were super sheer, which was okay, but they were so thin, they just didn’t lay right. They didn’t have any weight to them, so they tended to look wrinkled. A definite no go for me! I even tried to style them like the pictures – no luck!

It was my own fault this dress didn’t work. I ordered an X-Small … but my post-two baby booty was laughing at me in it. I am going to try another size and see if that makes it better. The fabric is more like linen … so not much stretch, and probably would wrinkle easily.

I am trying to set up a space in my home, where I can do Instagram stories of my try ons. I need a well lit space with a great mirror … hoping I can come up with something soon!



I started Invisalign today. I am currently 5 hours into my two year relationship. So far, it is not terrible. HOWEVER, there are a few things I wish I had known before I started this journey. Would knowing these things have changed my mind? Probably not, however, I would have been MUCH more mentally prepared for what was to come.

Here you go, my knowledge of the Invisalign experience … 5 hours into it.

You can eat whatever you want … but have to brush and floss after each time. I feel like the word ‘eat’ is used loosely. What it really means is, anything you put into your mouth, besides water, requires brushing and flossing. While I knew I had to take them off to eat, I had NO CLUE they needed to be removed to drink coffee … chew gum … eat a few pieces of candy, THEN a full round of teeth brushing after EVERY TIME. Seems small, but it all adds up quickly. I am already thinking about how this will affect my night time wine ritual.

They put little nubs on your teeth to hold the retainers in place. Sounds small potatoes … but my GOODNESS are they annoying from the start. They way they rub, catch food, and just in general feel in your mouth. I know, this is NOTHING compared to braces, but my goodness – they are ANNOYING!! I had NO IDEA!

You are not able to close your mouth all the way. This may be just my set, but there is this shelf behind my front teeth, preventing my bottom teeth from closing all the way. IT IS SO ANNOYING!!! Like I have a bite blocker permanently in my mouth.

The lisp. I knew I would have a slight speech impediment. I was warned … but I had NO IDEA I would sound like a cross between Elmer Fudd and Sylvester the Cat.

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My friend Hallie ‘Bria’ Blakey, is the one who pushed me into getting Invisalign. I 100% know she is totally unaware of this. On social media one day, she posted a picture of herself, recently sans-braces and said, “Invest in yourself” and that stuck with me. I have hated my teeth and smile for my entire life. It was time I invested in myself, which will help me to encourage my children to do the same. I needed to be an example of a woman I wanted them to become. I needed to invest in myself, and my husband supported it.

So here I am, week one (day one) into my 110 week journey. Any of your have some advice??? I would love any, and all, of your Invisalign tips and tricks!




Friday Confessions …

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Another Friday … another round of weekly confessions. Or as my husband likes to call it, “Another time when you tell people stuff they don’t really care to know …” … Yes, honey … another week.

  • My husband had to work late a few nights this week. When we were first married, I hated this kind of night. I missed him … I was lonely … I was a little scared. Now? Now I kind of look forward to these nights. First, I make the girls some type of resemblance of a dinner, typically a lunch meat and sliced cheese rolled up and a cup of yogurt. I tell them we are having, “a picnic”. But, really … we are having a, “I don’t want to do dishes or cook or do anything that requires energy” kind of meal. Then, when bed time hits … out comes the container of ice cream I have hidden in the back of the freezer, on goes the RHO-Something, and I am on the couch for the rest of the night. It. Is. GLORIOUS!
  • I have been receiving boxes of stuff I have ordered from all the sales lately (Nordstrom … Shopbop … Anthropologie) and my husband would KILL ME if he knew how much I had coming in. So … I stashed them all in the in our guest room and waited until a late work night (see above) to bust them all out! (Instastories coming soon with the try-on pictures)
  • I order a lot … too much … from Nordstrom. Their site is just too good to be true … free shipping … great sales … price matching. I go overboard … and Saturday was proof of that. I took everything I chose to pass on back to the mall. There were SO MANY boxes, I brought the girls stroller, took the seats off and stacked them up. It was so mortifying walking in with them all stacked shoulder high. The staring … the side eyes … not fun. It is not my fault though … Nordstrom sends a t-shirt in a box that would fit a poofy wedding dress … and if I put them in our recycle bin, my husband would know in an instant all the shopping I did. I had no choice. The return had to happen someway … boxes, stroller and all.
  • Buying stuff for my kids Easter basket is fun. All I buy is stuff I want to eat. No way am I giving my 11-month-old a large bag full of MiniCadbury eggs … but she’s getting them!! My three year old will not appreciate the Giradhelli chocolate bars I got … but I will!! Best part … hubby has no idea those candy purchases had ulterior motives!!

Hope you all have a great weekend and an amazing Easter!!



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Easter Ready …

I love Easter. It is, hands down, my favorite holiday. I love getting super dressed up for church … I love the family photos … I love the food … I LOVE the candy!!! It is all around a holiday I look forward to every year. The hardest part for me, is finding affordable dresses. What is it about Easter that makes me was something BRAND SPANKING NEW??

Sad day happened … my Anthropologie dress was cancelled … womp, womp. I have ZERO time to find something online and have it shipped – then HOPE it will work. Instead, I am heading to trusty Target (pronounced: tar-shey) to help me find something.

If you are like me and don’t want to travel to your store to see if they have these in stock, use the online store and select “Pick-Up in Store” as your delivery option. That way, you can pick it up in-store, go and try it on, then return it if it doesn’t work out. Easy – Peasy! Here are a few I am trying on at my local Target!! I am trying something new, click on the picture to travel to the link! Hoping to make it a little easier for you!

If you end up picking up one of these dresses and wearing it, be sure to post a picture to Instagram, and tag us! (@tshirtsandtantrums)



These are my confessions …


Another Friday … another round of Confessions … (just when I thought I said all I can say …)

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I love using this GIF for these Friday confessions … like … I am so bummed I used this idea so early … such a waste … FYI – it will be making periodic comebacks!

On to this weeks confessions:

  • I need to join a gym. It is that simple. This summer body jiggles when I walk … and I am PRETTY sure I have cellulite from my hips to my ankles … not a good look. HOWEVER, I just cannot seem to get myself to join the Y (it is the only local gym with childcare for the younger age kiddos in my area). I thought of buying some cute workout gear to get excited to wear to the gym!! Anyone have recommendations for great workout gear that is NOT Lululemon? I want cute stuff … but I also want money in the bank, and with Lululemon, that will not happen.
  • I haven’t made a real meal for my family in over a week. Seriously. My kids have been eating peanut butter and jelly, or frozen chicken nuggets, EVERY – NIGHT – THIS – WEEK, and my husband has been having to resort to eating random odds and ends of meals … bbq pork with cheese slices, ham sandwich with sundried tomatoes … and the worst one … leftover enchiladas and macaroni salad. Part of me is a little embarrassed and part of me is thinking, “I wonder how much longer I can go without actually cooking something …”
  • I told my husband we need to “Clean out the pantry…” which implies I want to try to eat as many things in our pantry and freezer, so they do not go bad. What it really means is, “I am f*&$%g lazy and I don’t to go to the store and cook. Instead, I want to pull random odds and ends out all week, and do as little prepping and preparing as possible.”
  • I have been letting my hair air-dry lately, which is not the best look for me. Some people get those tousled beachy waves when they dry. My hair does a weird corkscrew wave underneath, and dries straight as a board on the top layer. It looks odd, and not at all flattering. I tell my husband and co-workers its because I want to save my hair from heat styling, and give it some time to repair. What it really means is again, I am F*&#&%g lazy and I don’t want to blow dry or straighten my hair.
  • My 3 year old has watched MOANA so many dadgum times, the songs are stuck in my head for days on end. “I’m shiny …. “, or “What can I say except, you’re welcome …” GAH!!! Make it stop!!!! Moana ‘broke’ this weekend … so I am not sure what I am going to do to entertain my 3 year old (Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, Tangled and The Incredibles have all ‘broke’ as well …). The moment she discovers they are not broken, will work on our tablets and TV apps … and the dvd’s and blurays are all in working order … will be the day my sanity dies.

SO glad it is Friday!! It means there is a green glass bottle at home, with a cork in it … just WAITING to be opened, and consumed!

Hope you all have a great weekend!!